Back among the living

[superbadgirl]

It's not that I don't love my friend. I do. It's that my apartment is very small and I'm used to having what little space I have all to myself, so tripping over another person for even three days is kind of a pain. Actually, had it been summer I think we would have been all right. I'm hot all the time. I like the fresh air having a window open provides, even in February; K. is a freeze baby and so we kept the window shut for the entire visit. I haven't slept much since Thursday, due to stuffiness in the apartment and the fact that with the window shut the smoke from across the hallway really seeps in and it's wreaked havoc on my sinuses. I feel bad, but toward the end I was really resentful about the whole thing. I mean, I didn't want her to be uncomfortable, but it sucks that in order for her to not be uncomfortable I had to be uncomfortable.

Plus, I started out with a two day headache (finally figured out the trigger was her perfume, which was really not pretty smelling at all anyway) and then yesterday I had a sore throat/hoarse voice. It's still kind of hoarse and I've been trying to hack up my lungs for a couple of hours now.

That's not to say I didn't have fun. We didn't do a whole lot - dinner/movie on Thursday, had planned to go see some live music on Friday but we both had alcohol with dinner and got soooooo sleepy we just came home, and last night we went to a really bad play about drag queens saving their day spa from evil condo developers. It was actually hilarious, and I'm really glad we didn't wimp out of that. Daytimes were spent just walking around taking in the sights and shopping a little. Very low key.

And then she left (at 5:50 AM, ouch), and I slept some more (couldn't sleep last night because I was hot and my skin hurt), got up and watched Supernatural. Poor Dean.

Just glancing at my flist? Yeah, there's no way I'm ever going to catch up.

Comments

[seanchaidh.livejournal.com]

Ah, is that why you were on YM this week? Meh.

I've got YM up right now if you want to chat.

[superbadgirl]

Yep, I was out and about on the town. It sure beat being at work. ;)

[seanchaidh.livejournal.com]

No shit. ;-)

[superbadgirl]

Except for the massive headache and now this weird bronchial/throat thing, it was fun.

[aizjanika.livejournal.com]

Just glancing at my flist? Yeah, there's no way I'm ever going to catch up.

I understand. :-( I'm up to having almost 400 tabs open again, and everyday I have time to go through my flist, but just no time to comment (except to a few posts *g*) or read stories or whatever... And then I think "I'll get to it tomorrow" and then in a few days I have 400 tabs open waiting for the tomorrow that never comes.

It's so weird, though. When I cut down on my flist a few weeks ago, within a day I was just bored with it! I caught up and nothing was happening. hehe

I know exactly what you mean about the guests. I love having guests, but I know that when we have people come and stay, it can sometimes feel like an invasion. I also like things to be cool, and my guests would freeze in the house. I can be cluttery, but I also try to make things nice for when guests come and then they come and fling their stuff all over! And please don't try to help me! LOL There's nothing worse than people trying to help and loading my dishwasher all wrong or something. Only my MIL and I could work together like that because we were used to each other after so many years. hehe

Even with the toolman... He gets hot in the car, so turns down the heat, and I am freezing--my toes literally freezing right off and my hands so cold I almost can't stand it. Or he'll be in the car with short sleeves and I'm wearing my coat, so he's cold and I'm hot! lol It's never right. My "new" car has a thing so that you can set it for both sides, but it doesn't really work well.

If I ever meet up with online friends or whatever, I'd definitely have to get my own hotel room. I couldn't share a room. *g* I don't even really like sharing a hotel room with toolman, though we can do it because we are used to each other and we make allowances for each other, but it can suck. *g*

I'm going to visit lyraeinne this week, and part of the reason for that is to get her out of the dorm for a few days, and we are used to each other so it won't be bad, but we do drive each other nuts. She'll want to sleep when I want to get up and she'll get up early when I want to sleep and so on... *g* She'll be cold when I'm hot and hot when I'm cold.

Her dorm really sucks, though. I feel so terrible for her having to be there *all* the time. It's like your apartment building except with wild people--people yelling and screaming of all hours of the night, shared hall-style bathrooms that are always disgustingly filthy, and a teeny-tiny room with a roommate who's there ALL the time.

lyraeinne likes to get her work done early so she can have an hour or two to herself in the evening before bed, but her roommate is a night owl and that's when *she* wants to study. So lyraeinne works all day and waits to relax in the evenings (if she even has time), and maybe she wants to watch a TV show or something, but then she can't watch it because her roommate is there studying. And then her roommate wants to sleep all day and expects lyraeinne to be completely quite all day long. She complains if lyraeinne's just trying to eat something or get a drink.

We actually bought lyraienne a quiet keyboard to use with her computer so that she could at least get her work done during the day when normal people work. This is also why lyraeinne goes to the local university library on weekends to do her studying or even to Barnes & Noble. She can get more work and have more peace and quiet at Barnes & Noble than anywhere in her dorm. No screaming people.. (And that's not an exaggeration. I've been there. Her dorm is unbelievably NOISY and it's mostly all junior and seniors, not the youngest students.)

Her roommate is great...she really is, but it just sucks to have someone so close like that all the time.

Anyway, I sympathize with your feelings of being sort of invaded or crowded and made uncomfortable. *g*

It sounds like her visit was fun otherwise. I like to keep things low-key like that, too. I think it keeps people relaxed and keeps the pressure off. Some people like to be go-go-go all the time, but I have more fun doing stuff like what you describe. The play sounds awesome! *g*

[superbadgirl]

You and your tabs. I have, at most, two open at a time. I just get all scattered if I bounce around more than that.

It's really rough cohabitating when you've been alone for years, let me tell you. Three days seems like forever, and while I do really love my friend, we're about as opposite as two people can get. Right down to what TV/movies we like. Her: "I'll watch anything but sci-fi." Me: "Yeah, uhm, like one of my favorite things to watch!"

Bad timing for such close quarters, but the rest of the visit was good. It only rained a bit on Saturday night, and I was glad for that. I don't mind walking a bit in the rain, but doing it all day for a couple of days in a row would have sucked.

Ugh, your poor daughter! I really enjoyed dorm life, though I only did it for one year and then moved into an apartment. I liked my roommate for the most part, the rest of the gang was pretty cool and it was reasonably quiet. Or maybe I was just more tolerant then, what with having come from living in a zoo for my whole life. I didn't even have my own room until I was a senior in college. Heh.

[aizjanika.livejournal.com]

You and your tabs. I have, at most, two open at a time. I just get all scattered if I bounce around more than that.

I have my home page (My Yahoo with all my bookmarks and Yahoo Mail), LastFM, and LiveJournal open all the time. When I used to go to OS and TWOP, I had those open all the time, too. If not, I'd forget about them. *g* Nearly all the rest of the tabs are always LJ posts that I want to comment on or reply to a comment. If I don't open them up in a tab, I'll forget about them. I have some that I closed out and saved in bookmarks, but I'll never remember which ones I've already addressed and which I haven't so I've given up on them. hehe

Right down to what TV/movies we like. Her: "I'll watch anything but sci-fi." Me: "Yeah, uhm, like one of my favorite things to watch!"

*g* That does make things a little difficult. When my mother-in-law was here visiting, I put on an episode of Farscape and she thought it was nuts. *g* OTOH, FIAD was on, too, and she enjoyed that, until she wanted to know how Daniel's wife died and I told her she was killed by aliens. Hee! She was a soap fan, so enjoyed the drama, but aliens? *g* Luckily she was a huge fan of Boston Legal. She was a sweetheart, though. Last year she actually taped Stargate for me one time (original airing of Origin, IIRC), because we were driving up there and were going to arrive late--like 1 or 2 a.m.).

Ugh, your poor daughter! I really enjoyed dorm life, though I only did it for one year and then moved into an apartment. I liked my roommate for the most part, the rest of the gang was pretty cool and it was reasonably quiet. Or maybe I was just more tolerant then, what with having come from living in a zoo for my whole life. I didn't even have my own room until I was a senior in college. Heh.

Hee! Yeah, that would make a difference. Her roommate prefers being at school even though she has a good relationship with her mother. It's just that school has internet and is actually more comfortable than her home. Many of lyraeinne's other friends also prefer the dorms to their families for a variety of reasons. I didn't want to have a roommate, though, and it's one of the things that scared me away from going away to school when I was first out of high school.

I had trouble adjusting to living with toolman, though, and he was just one person. *g* He's pretty easy-going and we had already known each other for years, but it took a very long time to completely adjust to having someone around all the time and especially to sharing space. It took a few years to get used to each other and maybe 15+ years to *really* be more in synch, I think. It did not come easy for me, and it's still always an adjustment, though I'm certainly more used to having him around after 26 years. *g*

Even now, I've never been happier (as far as where we live) because I have my own little space here (my office) that's completely mine and I don't share it with anyone. :-) I've never had that before. The whole house is mine, but it's not the same. hehe

Anyway, I do feel bad for lyraeinne with the whole dorm thing. In some ways it's a good experience for her, but it does make everything harder--like actually getting work done. Not that we've ever had it perfect, but it can't hurt to learn that things are seldom ideal in life and you just have to make the best of it. :-) When she's a little older and on her own, she'll appreciate it more. :-) I appreciate this house a *lot* because for 23 years we lived in a lot of places that were a lot less than ideal. *g* Everyday when I come downstairs, I think about that.