Ah , family. Can't kill 'em.
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superbadgirlI love my family. I do. There are just a LOT of us and many of us have disparate belief systems about a wide variety of things. Case in point, I'm sitting there when my sister brings up a story about a guy who lived next to a cat that was "mean and evil" and he didn't like this cat, so he'd take OTR trips in his semi for work, bring the cat with and leave it. He did this twice, the second time dropped off in Nebraska on his way to California. Well, cat owners had microchipped their beloved cat and he "got in trouble" for doing this. To which my brother was astonished that anyone would care enough about a cat to go get it from Nebraska after their jackhole neighbor tried to get rid of it, and my dad said his usual comment about just shooting the cat instead. I told them they were being stupid. My sister then chimed in with a classic, "If you were allergic like J is, you'd have a different opinion on cats." Nope. No, I wouldn't. You can not like something without being needlessly cruel about it. I lived most of my life indifferent to cats or dogs, but didn't actively think about harming them. Or any other living creature, for that matter.
These are three of the most devoutly Catholic people in my family. Their reactions are whatever, I'm used to it. But I guarantee you that had I not been sitting there, the topic would not have come up. It's like they go out of their way to be complete aholes about cats because they know I love and have cats. I find it pretty telling that they do this to me - 1) it's unnecessary. I know my dad hates cats though has NEVER ACTUAllY GIVEN ANY REASON and 2) it's hurtful to say stuff like that in front of someone they know has the polar opposite feelings. Maybe I'm sensitive, I dunno. But contextually, my dad mentioned his old dog Skipper, a Springer Spaniel he had when I was late teens, HS and college, who got hit by a car while I was out walking with her. Traumatizing anyway, and I knew how much my dad loved that dog and I again told him how bad I feel about that whole thing. 29 years of still feeling terrible about an accident, and he can't refrain from making cracks about "dispatching" cats around me... Ugh.
Next time I will have to ask them why they feel their hate is the more valid feeling than other peoples' love. I can't imagine how little they think of the HUMANS who love these cats they'd happily kill because they don't like them. I know I would get an "it's just a cat, relax" response.
LOL, clearly needed to get that off my chest.
My sister hosted the family this year and she has two cats. LOLOLOLLLLLL. One of my nephews is allergic, knows they have cats and yet when he came he and his mom ran around in a panic looking for Benadryl. Like, you know there are cats in a house and you don't dose up BEFORE YOU ARRIVE and instead dramatize the whole thing?
Despite all of this ranting, the trip was okay. Glad I didn't stay long, though. My dad looks very poorly after his knee surgery. Pallor still, and definite weight loss. I have this feeling he is not very interested in remaining on the earth, so we shall see.
Hope everyone had a lovely holiday week. I have some photos which will come. Maybe I'll go back to one a day? Hmm.
These are three of the most devoutly Catholic people in my family. Their reactions are whatever, I'm used to it. But I guarantee you that had I not been sitting there, the topic would not have come up. It's like they go out of their way to be complete aholes about cats because they know I love and have cats. I find it pretty telling that they do this to me - 1) it's unnecessary. I know my dad hates cats though has NEVER ACTUAllY GIVEN ANY REASON and 2) it's hurtful to say stuff like that in front of someone they know has the polar opposite feelings. Maybe I'm sensitive, I dunno. But contextually, my dad mentioned his old dog Skipper, a Springer Spaniel he had when I was late teens, HS and college, who got hit by a car while I was out walking with her. Traumatizing anyway, and I knew how much my dad loved that dog and I again told him how bad I feel about that whole thing. 29 years of still feeling terrible about an accident, and he can't refrain from making cracks about "dispatching" cats around me... Ugh.
Next time I will have to ask them why they feel their hate is the more valid feeling than other peoples' love. I can't imagine how little they think of the HUMANS who love these cats they'd happily kill because they don't like them. I know I would get an "it's just a cat, relax" response.
LOL, clearly needed to get that off my chest.
My sister hosted the family this year and she has two cats. LOLOLOLLLLLL. One of my nephews is allergic, knows they have cats and yet when he came he and his mom ran around in a panic looking for Benadryl. Like, you know there are cats in a house and you don't dose up BEFORE YOU ARRIVE and instead dramatize the whole thing?
Despite all of this ranting, the trip was okay. Glad I didn't stay long, though. My dad looks very poorly after his knee surgery. Pallor still, and definite weight loss. I have this feeling he is not very interested in remaining on the earth, so we shall see.
Hope everyone had a lovely holiday week. I have some photos which will come. Maybe I'll go back to one a day? Hmm.
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