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Dear Ex,
Do not call me "babe" in emails, or, you know, ever. I barely think I can even be friends with you as it is, and that does not help.
And, no, I do not want to have dinner and see a movie with you tonight. Frankly, it seems to me like you'd construe that as a date and I can't take that chance. I mean, seriously.
Take in the "babe" and the dinner/movie into consideration. Do you really wonder why I get a strange vibe that you don't really want to be friends, but something more?
I fear you are delusional.
No love,
Me
I know I kvetch about this guy all the time, and I've definitely stopped replying to every email. On a recent training trip to LA, the dude continually sent me multiple emails with a ton of pictures attached. I didn't ask for the slideshow and wasn't interested so I didn't open them. I told him I wasn't interested in LA's sights (I'm sure it's a great city, just not really chomping at the bit to go there), foolishly thinking this would clue him in that I wasn't paying any attention to his email attachments. After weeks of this, he sent a quick note and I just never replied. For a week, he was silent...and I dared to hope he'd given up.
And then on Monday, there was an email from J. I thought about just not responding, like, ever, but then I started feeling guilty. So I basically said, "hey, sorry, been busy and cranky and overwhelmed lately. Bye."
The response was the dinner/movie email. Probably him just wanting to help me de-stress, but I really think he should know by now that my time with him isn't exactly without aggravation.
I really need to be more assertive and just flat-out tell him my feelings of ookiness and prepare myself to deal with him refuting the fact that he's putting out "I want SBG as more than a friend" vibes.
Do not call me "babe" in emails, or, you know, ever. I barely think I can even be friends with you as it is, and that does not help.
And, no, I do not want to have dinner and see a movie with you tonight. Frankly, it seems to me like you'd construe that as a date and I can't take that chance. I mean, seriously.
Take in the "babe" and the dinner/movie into consideration. Do you really wonder why I get a strange vibe that you don't really want to be friends, but something more?
I fear you are delusional.
No love,
Me
I know I kvetch about this guy all the time, and I've definitely stopped replying to every email. On a recent training trip to LA, the dude continually sent me multiple emails with a ton of pictures attached. I didn't ask for the slideshow and wasn't interested so I didn't open them. I told him I wasn't interested in LA's sights (I'm sure it's a great city, just not really chomping at the bit to go there), foolishly thinking this would clue him in that I wasn't paying any attention to his email attachments. After weeks of this, he sent a quick note and I just never replied. For a week, he was silent...and I dared to hope he'd given up.
And then on Monday, there was an email from J. I thought about just not responding, like, ever, but then I started feeling guilty. So I basically said, "hey, sorry, been busy and cranky and overwhelmed lately. Bye."
The response was the dinner/movie email. Probably him just wanting to help me de-stress, but I really think he should know by now that my time with him isn't exactly without aggravation.
I really need to be more assertive and just flat-out tell him my feelings of ookiness and prepare myself to deal with him refuting the fact that he's putting out "I want SBG as more than a friend" vibes.
