superbadgirl: (charlie pensive)
superbadgirl ([personal profile] superbadgirl) wrote2007-11-06 09:24 am

A long time ago, we used to be friends

Have you ever had someone in your life, someone you considered a very close friend...but life and circumstances just made you drift apart? My friend A. and I used to be tight, and then she moved to Milwaukee and I moved to Seattle. Obviously, things shifted and changed and our communication started coming less frequently. She got married. I haven't even met her husband.

But I knew we were no longer really friends long before all that. One year, exchanging holiday and birthday gifts, I presented her with a well thought-out gift, something that fit her tastes and personality and she gave me...an animated, musical cookie jar shaped like Scooby Doo. At that point, I remember an overwhelming urge to burst into tears right there, and a horrible thought that we might have never really been friends at all, because she honestly thought that was the perfect gift for me.

Anyway. Last night, I got one solitary piece of mail. It was from A. Inside the envelope was a birth announcement for her second baby.

I didn't even know she was pregnant again.

I'm pretty sure it's just me - I know lots of people have friends they stay in touch with since high school and/or college. I just can't seem to. I'm a fairly solitary creature, so that might be it. It depresses me, though. Even with good friends, I'll respond to emails and calls and such and get nothing in return.

We Used To Be Friends
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[identity profile] aizjanika.livejournal.com 2007-11-07 02:39 am (UTC)(link)
P.S. I've lost my homeschool mom friends over the last few years, too. We are all still friendly, but we went from emailing each other 20 or more times a day everyday on our little email loop to almost nothing nowadays. Everyone sends update once or twice a year now, and that's about it. I was closer to these friends than to any other adult friends I've ever had.

Currently, I don't have any friends except my LJ friends and that's it. I'm friendly with the other moms in the teen group, but we're not really friends in that way, really.

I'm friendly with people everywhere I go, but I don't really want people intruding in my life in that way--at least not people I know. *g* I mean, if all my LJ friends ever got together at a convention or something, that would be really cool, but I don't know anyone in my proximity that I'd want to be coming over my house all the time, borrowing all my stuff, and getting in my way when I have things to do.