The second guy is full of shit, I think. Here's why.

I'm naturally dominant, without meaning or wanting to be. And guess what? Men submit to me right and left. If this guy can't find women who will submit to him, then I doubt he's a real dominant. I rather suspect he's just an uptight control freak who's mistaken himself for dominant.

Interestingly, neither I nor any of the natural dominants I know want submissive mates. We want equals.